A good reminder of how hard it is to make big decisions at that age (or any age, for that matter). Hopefully this gets him back on track.
Jan K Oski
· 1 year ago
Selfishness? When did selfishness become a virtue? Monty isn't selfish, because he wants to be the primary TB. College is about opportunity, and if the opportunity that you seek isn't there, it would be utter stupidity to hang around. Monty is actually exhibiting wisdom. However, he is misguided on how he handles it.
The real issue is that Monty is stuck in his childhood, and he doesn't know it. Everyone comes to a point in life, where they need to stand up and be their own. Monty failed to do this when he was 18. Now, he is still exhibiting a childlike behavior by measuring his success by emotions. This is a dangerous road, and many people are taken heavy meds for they have never found happiness down it.
If I were a Division I school coach, and I read what Monty said to J.O. about feelings, I'd pass on him in a heart beat. My guess is Monty will be heading to a division II school, and he will regret his decision. Live and learn! But, there's a lot of common sense from the collective human experience that is sound and worthy of reflection in one's personal life.
Avinash
· 1 year ago
Jan, Selfishness in this case is wisdom; you must learn to take decisions into your own hands at the proper age and find a place where you are at ease.
Montgomery has exhibited considerable unease through most of his time at Cal, at least from up-close, according to several sources, and it seemed he was paying out his parents' wishes rather than following his own. This is the biggest step in a kid's life, to gain his independence and the confidence to follow his own path, regardless of the disapproval it brings.
As for Division II...uhh, no, I can't see a starred recruit landing at California of Pennsylvania. Montgomery has a good shot to land at Oregon or Washington, maybe even the Florida schools. He is still well-regarded and could very well make a difference at a strong Division I school.
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The real issue is that Monty is stuck in his childhood, and he doesn't know it. Everyone comes to a point in life, where they need to stand up and be their own. Monty failed to do this when he was 18. Now, he is still exhibiting a childlike behavior by measuring his success by emotions. This is a dangerous road, and many people are taken heavy meds for they have never found happiness down it.
If I were a Division I school coach, and I read what Monty said to J.O. about feelings, I'd pass on him in a heart beat. My guess is Monty will be heading to a division II school, and he will regret his decision. Live and learn! But, there's a lot of common sense from the collective human experience that is sound and worthy of reflection in one's personal life.
Selfishness in this case is wisdom; you must learn to take decisions into your own hands at the proper age and find a place where you are at ease.
Montgomery has exhibited considerable unease through most of his time at Cal, at least from up-close, according to several sources, and it seemed he was paying out his parents' wishes rather than following his own. This is the biggest step in a kid's life, to gain his independence and the confidence to follow his own path, regardless of the disapproval it brings.
As for Division II...uhh, no, I can't see a starred recruit landing at California of Pennsylvania. Montgomery has a good shot to land at Oregon or Washington, maybe even the Florida schools. He is still well-regarded and could very well make a difference at a strong Division I school.